I know people with some big personalities. Huge, actually.
And it’s arguable that I myself have a big personality. Ok, I won’t be modest. I do have a big personality.
What about you? Do you consider yourself to have a big personality or a not-so-big personality?
I hesitate to use the words “small personality” because I don’t want to make anyone think I’m asking if you’re small minded.
There’s a difference.
And I’m also not talking about introverts and extroverts.
I guess my question is this:
When you go somewhere do people know you’ve been there? Are you one of those people who takes up the room when you are in it? Do people naturally flock to you because you’re telling all the stories?
Or are you one of the people who can go to a party and leave with only the host knowing you’ve been there? Are you a fringe person – do you like to be part of things, but not at the epicenter? Are you the one listening to the larger than life person telling the stories?
High season for one of the organizations I’m a part of is getting under way this weekend. Between now and the first weekend of May, we will be doing things with this group (or at least some members of it) 15-17 times.
I know. Crazy, right?
And thinking about gearing up for that made me start thinking about both the BIG personalities and the quieter ones.
Because we have both. And it’s an interesting dynamic to watch. Bringing in the husbands with their personalities adds another layer of intrigue to the mix as well.
Last year we were new to this group. Many of us were just getting to know each other. Some of us were on our best behavior. Some of us weren’t. Some of us maybe don’t ever engage in bad behavior at all.
I’ll be curious how this year, knowing each other so much better, changes things.
And I’m really interested in watching us grow as a group.
Another example: I did two spinning classes back-to-back yesterday. The first one was full of larger-than-life personalities, people commenting on the song choices, singing along, chatting with each other as they prepared their bikes. Very boisterous and outgoing.
The second class? No one talked. No one looked up. No one sang, bantered. Nothing. When “Sister Christian” came on and I said “Man I LOVE this song!” No one acknowledged my statement. Or even looked up from their bikes. Except for my friend who was next to me.
And honestly – I felt so much more comfortable in the first group. I like talkative, boisterous people. I like people who live their lives on the outside, at least to a certain extent, rather than living 100% from within.
It makes me feel less alone in the world, I suppose.
And that’s not to say I don’t like quiet, introspective people. I do! But the place I feel more comfortable? When people are happy to put themselves out there a bit.
What about you? Do you have a BIG personality? A quiet one? Or are you somewhere in between? And why?